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I don’t want to be that girl that second guesses love. I don’t want to be that girl that thinks, “Men ain’t shit.” I don’t want to be that girl that misses out on love because I’m afraid to trust. I don’t want to be the person that hurts you over and over again. I don’t want to be that pain that you feel when you think about dating. I don’t want to seclude my heart from the joys of marriage. I swear I just don’t want to be that girl.

It’s crazy because just like that we all have been that girl. We have experienced pain so much that we don’t have any other way to react to love except through negativity and suffering. This state of mind is so easy to sub come to. At times it seems like the only alternative when love fails, but a dear friend once told me, “Every guy you date can’t be your man, someone has to be the lesson.” I never fully understood what that meant until recently. I used to approach every situation thinking, “This is it, maybe he could be the one.” Then I set these expectations that this man is totally unaware that he has to live up to. Then once we share our interest with each other, I’m disappointed because this perfect person that I created in my head just turns out to be someone with none of the same interest as me.

From that point on I learned that in every situation you must protect your heart, but even more, you have to take things one day at a time. WE often get so caught up in what we are looking for that we lose sight of the bigger picture just having fun. Just living in the moment and creating memories that you’ll never forget. It’s ok to have memories with friends, where’s the harm in that? You do yourself the most harm when you jump the gun, and you don’t allow nature to take its course.

So now, now that can live for today, without trying to make the next guy I meet my husband, I no longer have to worry about being that girl.